how many times do you ring a doorbell?

Curious about Communication | Adapting


I mentioned in the previous post about two people who never respond to me.  Ever.
I get on with them quite well.
Great colleagues or clients who also happen to be great friends.
We have fantastic times when we see each other.
And then…silence.

Other interviewees said that happened to them too.
They just couldn’t get an email response, no matter what.


Adapt to their style of communication.
Stop emailing.
Pick up the phone.
Not working?  Try a text.
Maybe even stop by their place, ring the doorbell.
Is that considered too stalker like?
What if they live a few time zones away?

Does anyone else have suggestions?

2 Responses to “how many times do you ring a doorbell?”

  1. Lily Says:

    I have several friends who are non-responders. We have been friends for 30+ years because I don’t care that they don’t respond. I love them anyway. I have watched mutual friends leave the relationship because there wasn’t enough response. Having grown up in a family of non-responders (even when I was standing right in front of them), I guess it doesn’t bother me. I finally asked one friend, and her problem was perfectionism. She wanted to write me the perfect email response, and never got around to it. So I call when I want to talk to her.

    Over the years, I have learned that non-response can be quite handy. My husband is a famous non-responder. It took some getting used to, and Hawaii is full of non-responders, so I’m going with the flow.

    Not sure I really like it after being a lifelong responder, but it is useful.

  2. Suzi Says:

    Thanks for your thoughts on non responders. I definitely think it takes adaptation as you mentioned. For business correspondence, it can be more frustrating.
    Interesting that the idea of perfection keeping someone from doing something. Such high standards!

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